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  I am a non-witness in love with one. help please

  by jarrod in

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  i am a man who is in love with a witness.

  we have been in a relationship for 3 years full of guilt and fear and now it seems like it may be the end.

  is it possible or is there a way for me to have my own belief and marry a jw?

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  thinkers wife

  Jarrod,
  Hope this goes well for you. If it is any solace. My husband is a non-JW. And the fact that he shows great interest in learning about the religion (without any chance of ever being converted) is of great benefit to our relationship. I cannot express how much this means to me, although I am no longer an active witness.
  Good Luck, and may all your dreams come true!
  TW
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  Mommy I want to marry you !!!!!

  by Maxee in

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  hello mommy, let me get straight to the point here - (not like amicus who has been desperately trying in vain to sweet talk his way into sevens panties) - i think you are a living doll and i would like to marry you right now.

  yes you can take this as a proposal.

  i need to get some service in on you every month starting immediately.

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  thinkers wife

  Well, Prisca beat me to it. Amicus and Larc, you guys are right up there with my husband. TRUE GENTLEMEN. Love you both. Seems to becoming a lost breed.
  TW
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  Real sad

  by claudia in

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  this is copied and pasted from a jw forum, its so sad.

  the topic is excluding relatives from your wedding.

  this guy wouldnt even let his own mom watch him cut the cake!.

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  thinkers wife

  This is very sad. What a loss for the members who are still JW's.
  RHW, I said almost those exact words the other day with regards to my parents. It helps us a little with where we are, but does nothing for them.
  TW
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  Another New One

  by notperfectyet in

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  i have been reading this site for a couple of months.

  last night i stayed up all night, (not unusual for me though) and read the posts by ......well you know...the new kid on the block...who created so much fury.

  at first i thought she was a fake, and i still do.

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  thinkers wife

  Hey Perfect,
  I know exactly what you mean. You just don't have time for anything while you are in "it"! Including growing up. Between surviving my abusive marriage and protecting myself from the critical elders I missed out on a lot.
  It is so refreshing, having a loving parnter, who supports me in everything I do. And having the time to grow and think.
  Actually one of the highlights of my Witness years (I'm kind of ashamed to admit this) was turning my ex-husband in. Although it did make my life more hellish. But the eventuality was he left. Yeah!! Party time! Although a lot of adjustments. Well worth the time and effort. Proved to myself that I was capable and able, after years of being made to feel inadequate.
  I think you will find through time some of the wrinkles with your mate may smooth out! Good Luck!! And may you enjoy the ride.
  TW
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  I'm confused

  by NickL in

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  this db is advertised as a "witness" board.

  yet there seems to be some disagreement over the place the wts should play in our lives.

  can someone inform me what the "official" stand on this matter is?.

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  thinkers wife

  Hi Bjc,
  There are so many things to say in reply to your post. But I am not a patient person by nature. So I will keep it brief. To me, the things you mentioned about the leadership are the very things that prove these ones are not teaching the truth. This could be proved by using the very sciptures they use to prove they are the ones with the truth.
  When changing doctrine and dogma seriously affects masses of peoples lives, I have a problem with this. And how will they fix the lives ruined in the past? Some individuals have tried to get the Society to retract past judgements based on the changed rules and the Society turns a blind eye. i.e. A woman whose husband commited beastiality. Society ruled no ground for divorce. She divorced him, and got disfellowshipped for it. When their policy changed to this being considered audultrey (sp?), she wrote a letter asking for a retraction of her disfellowshipping. Answer? "NO". How can these be fixed? Another example. A seventeen year old girl is raped by a ministerial servant and proclaimed annoited one. He is privately reproved, she publicly. Why was there even a need for a comittee meeting? And how are the years of her blaming herself to be accounted for and retribution made? Are these just imperfect actions? Ones to be excused and ignored. I don't think so!!! A spirit directed organization would not allow these things to occur. And if they did by some strange coincidance there would be a way to fix all the damage done.
  These men not only are no better than any of the other religions (i.e. Catholic priest molesting) they are more accountable because they claim to have the only truth, and control their members to the point of mind numbing permanent damage.
  Sorry this seems so strong, but it is an emotional subject for me.
  TW
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  Heresy of the Month

  by thinker in

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  heresy of the month (from a website).

  don't you hate it when someone you know comes up with some new thing that you have never heard about?

  you sit there in apparent ignorance as they pontificate about the proofs and merits of some idea so far beyond common knowledge that it can only be revealed by people of exceptional enlightenment such as they.

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  thinkers wife

  No Larc,
  I think it is a good sign. I think God wanted this thread to become a burning issues again. He performed a miracle and posted it nine times. Notice a derivative of three. Three times three for emphasis.
  TW
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  Less Perfect, Less Communication?

  by eyes_opened in

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  i've always wondered why it was, that when mankind was supposedly closer to perfection, god kept in direct contact with people either through angels speaking, or prophetic dreams, seas parting, etc.

  but the further man got from perfection the less and less contact he gave people.

  it seems like the worse off we are, the more help, or direction we would require.

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  thinkers wife

  Eyes,
  Sounds a lot like some elders I know. The "weaker" you are, the less attention they pay to you. One time I even asked one what I could do to have more friends in the org. He said I needed to be more hospitable. I had a lot of "friends" over, but it just never got around to being reciprocated.
  TW
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  Non-JW Friends...

  by LDH in

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  when you were active, or if you still are, did you all maintain non-jw friendships?.

  i've always kept some close friends who weren't jws.

  but reading a .

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  thinkers wife

  My parents were somewhat balanced in this area. ie They didn't subscribe to the "their worldly", a term which I have always hated.
  But it was still limited.
  Now because of my job situation it is not easy to meet people. I am self-employed and see the same people all the time. It is difficult to meet others and form relationships. Given the opportunity no problem, I am very much a people person.
  TW
  P.S. I have no children. But do have a step-daughter. I am always delighted when she talks about her friends. I wish she had more, she is shy. And now that she is almost thirteen she is showing an interest in boys. That too, delights me. So nice looking at it through the other end of the scope.
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  Questions

  by cleojones in

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  i am not a jw, but i do have some questions.

  1. what is the basis for believing all religions other than jw are false?

  is there a scripture that states this?

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  thinkers wife

  Leave it to Larc to turn it into a lark!
  Some interesting thoughts though Larc and Prisa. Ones I too have wondered about!
  TW
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  Questions

  by cleojones in

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  i am not a jw, but i do have some questions.

  1. what is the basis for believing all religions other than jw are false?

  is there a scripture that states this?

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  thinkers wife

  Welcome Cleojones,
  Excellent questions. I too, would suggest presenting these questions to your study conductor. And make sure whatever scriptures she uses, read all the context around it.
  I am sure others with more patience than I have will give you more scriptures!
  Bottom line though, study and find out for yourself. Before you commit to anything you may want to find out some of the history of the Witnesses and their doctrine. If my husband replies he will give you some websites to go to. There are some listed on another thread, can't remember which one. Well worth the search.
  My husbands handle is Thinker.
  Thinkers Wife